Mammary Glands!

The Human female is a beautiful creation indeed! Beyond (read below) the face, the most attractive body part of a woman to a man is the ‘mammary glands’! All mammals have this part of the anatomy but it seems that only the human female has ‘plus qualities’ with her breasts! They are part of what makes a woman beautiful and attractive to men. ‘Breasts’ may only serve as a source of nourishment for young ones of animals, but for human it’s much more than that. One of the most erogenous zones of a woman is the ‘breast ‘. The whole breast is ‘lovely to touch’ and sexually arousing for the man and more so sexually arousing to the woman. The nipple is the most sensitive part of the breast and needs only to be sucked/stroked/fondled lightly to make a woman all wet and wanting to have sexual intercourse. Some women can actually have an orgasm through sensual massage/caress of the breasts even before engaging in full sexual intercourse! Breasts come in different lovely shapes and sizes. Think of fruits say, mangoes, papaws……! Small, big, round, pear shaped………!

 Men need to learn to appreciate the beauty of breasts and their importance when it comes to sexual arousal and satisfaction. In some cultures (i.e. some in Africa), it’s taboo for a grown up person to touch or fondle a woman’s breast, let alone suckle and tease her nipples!(even if that woman is his wife!) This is doing a great disservice to women by denying them what is uniquely their naturally given ability to enjoy sex by also being aroused through caressing their breasts and nipples! Breasts need to be handled with care! Most men would want to roughly squeeze the breasts and pinch the nipple! They only need to tenderly caress and lightly massage the breasts. Since the nipples are very sensitive, sometimes they may hurt when touched roughly. This may be different on different occasions. Some women may not want their breast to be touched say, during their menses or when pregnant and when lactating. It’s usually a different reaction to different women so men have to communicate with their partner/s. Baring some abnormality/illness all women will feel aroused in varying degrees when their breasts are fondled and especially so when their nipples are lightly sucked and teased by a man’s tongue. The breast was meant to be ‘handled’ by the tongue, so naturally the lips just covering the base of the nipple sucking while the tongue licks and teases the nipple does a much lovelier sensual arousal than the hand!

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Tiny Giant

The ‘Appendix’  in the human body appears to be useless. It doesn’t seem to have any particular function and even if it is removed you live a normal life! Of all the animals in the universe, the human female seems to be the only ‘animal’ with a clitoris! But the clitoris is not only ‘useful’, it seems to have only one function, which is to provide sexual pleasure to the woman!  It’s really sad that some cultures practice what they call female circumcision, which is in fact ‘genital mutilation’ and a denial of the right of women to fully enjoy their sexuality. One of the most sexually arousing body part of a woman is the clitoris. This ‘tiny giant’, when it comes to sexual enjoyment and satisfaction is almost always ignored or remains unknown to most people during sexual intercourse. The clitoris is the equivalent of the male penis in sensitivity but is much more sensitive to direct touch and can be painful if handled roughly! It’s hidden in folds at the top of the female genitalia where the labia minora (inner/smaller vaginal lips) meet the labia majora (the outer/larger vaginal lips). Just about  a ¼ of the clitoris is accessible, the rest being buried  deep inside the vagina, with the ‘roots’ in what is known as the “G-Spot”.

The clitoris alone, properly caressed can send a woman into an orgasmic frenzy that cannot be realized through penile penetration alone! It’s advisable to make sure that you do not touch the clitoris without first wetting it either by using saliva (natural lubrication), water based lubrication, or the woman’s own ‘sexual juices’. Most women find the clitoris to be too sensitive to touch that they cannot withstand the ‘excess pleasure’ without crying out and some would even ‘speak in tongues’  as they have their orgasms which may come one after the other within a span of a few minutes! The clitoris seems to be sensitive on one side, you have to find out which side of the clitoris excites your woman more. Like the male penis, the clitoris has a ‘head’, but unlike the penis, remember the clitoral ‘head’ is hidden under the ‘clitoral hood’. Fingers can be hard and rough so the best way to stimulate a woman’s clitoris is by tongue! Let your tongue dance with the clitoris, kiss and lightly suck at the clitoral head. Do it nice and slow as if you were happily licking and sucking on a lollipop!

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Use Your Condom Sense!

Much as sexual intercourse is natural and healthy all precautions for having safe sex should be considered before one commits to the act. It may matter not whether you are in love or not. whether you care for your sex partner or not. Whatever motivates you into an act of sexcapade should always be preceded with the thought of 'safety first'. Be  prepared for the consequences. Apart from the possibility of unwanted pregnancy, the chances of contracting sexually transmitted infections should never be overlooked. Funny enough, majority of women would mention the fear of pregnancy before, during and after an act of sexual indulgence! It's as if the obvious exposure to diseases even in this era of AIDS, does not scare them to frigidity! Trust alone does not work, and especially so in unmarried couples. Even in marriage, when there is enough tension to warrant mistrust then the possibility of condom use ought to be discussed as the couple seek for a lasting solution. And in cases of discordant couples ( when one partner is H.I.V. positive ,while the other is negative), the use of condoms during conjugal communion should be a subject for discussion. Most people find it rather amusing that a married couple can even think of using  condoms, but one must care about themselves as well as their partners. When the situation calls for condom use or total abstinence, then there is no other option. Either make use of condoms or forget about sex altogether! It should not come as a surprise that most men cannot use condoms appropriately, this is not automatic. Men must take the responsibility of getting to know how to use condoms because improper condom use can easily lead to condom breakage/leakage and in some cases a condom can even slip off the male organ and remain in the vaginal canal! Women too have now been sexually empowered! Femidoms (condoms specifically designed for women) are now available. At least the enlightened woman has a say when it comes to condom use. If the man does not have a condom on hand, don't feel ashamed, go ahead and surprise him by using the female condom! Mostly women are disadvantaged because the use of condoms seems to be a decision that can only be undertaken by men. In fact most women would silently pray that the man they are about to have sex with has condoms with him, otherwise they just accept the situation as it is. No matter what do not allow yourself to suffer silently. Take the bold step and use your 'condom sense' for safe and worry free sex!

 No one should be forced to engage in unsafe sexual encounters.

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Unplug Your Mind

It's only naturally to feel Horny, honey! For most people the subject of sex is taboo. No wonder many people are afraid of even trying to seek for remedy when it's so obvious that they have a sexual problem. People are suffering in silence because of ignorance. There's every reason for each and everyone of us to get as much information as possible concerning this emotionally connecting magical sexperince; human sexual intercourse. When it's ingrained in your mind that sex is dirty, know that you can never get to enjoy any kind of intimacy to the fullest even when in a steady relationship or married. We need to unplug our minds, stop being so conservative and ever naïve and become more adventurous in matters of intimacy and sensual sexcapades! We are sexual beings! That a matter of fact! The only thing that should really be worrying us is sexual paranoia, phobias and other negative attitudes that only serve to make us starve of sex instead of being well informed to the point of being able to make the right decisions when it comes to the who, where, when, why and hows of sex! Why for instance should a sane, healthy , mature lady fail to get 'laid' when she knows the kind of man she would really want to have a relationship with? Even a one night stand!! A real lady waits for a man to seduce her..... Very wrong! A real lady has the freedom to 'mingle and jiggle' when she feels like. Waiting for a man to make the first move may only mean that only those men who fancy her or who are not intimidated by her have a chance of dipping their prods into her honey pot! Women need to enjoy sex as much as men do, and therefore should never be afraid to initiate the right moves that will make them 'net the ' the kind of men that they fancy! Taboo can only be a stopper in your mind that is denying you your natural right to be aroused and sexually satisfied, lady! No one should try to insinuate that it is wrong or even a sin for a woman to go out of her way to attract men in order to exercise her right! Every one has the responsibility of ensuring that no one is discriminated in whatever manner, including trying to discourage women from enjoying sex by deeming them immoral when they are bold enough to ask for it ! Come on girl, get out there and go for it ! Don't be afraid, don't be shy, lay it out plain . Let your man know that you are itching for a 'birth canal scrub'! The important thing to always keep in mind is that, every action has a consequence, positive or negative. Be prepared !

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Love At First Bite !

Love is a mysterious feeling! It can be quite difficult to describe how exactly one feels when they are in love. The mystery becomes even more compounded when lust is confused with love. It is said that love is that total/holistic feeling of  emotional attachment, while lust is merely a fleeting sense of  wanting that easily dissipates once that 'want' is achieved. The problem is, it is never really easy to differentiate between the two; love and lust.(think of fraternal twins; so similar yet so different!)  For most people, most of the time, lust takes the center stage of their intimate relations. People are attracted more to each other for the simple reason of satisfying their sexual curiosities as opposed to the pure magnetism of falling in love. no wonder we talk about falling in love: a tragedy! It should be meeting with love: an adventure! Lust is an end on it's own. It comes as it goes. There is no serious emotional attachment where lust rules. It's like a game of poker. You either lose or win! Love offers a chance for a win-win situation. Love is a give and take 'compromise'. Meaning as well as expecting to be loved back, one should be ready for rejection without feeling offended or willing to accept the half-baked love ! (given time, love has a way of  maturing).Love takes time to grow. Sometimes it may take years for a couple to realize that their relation isn't just a 'friendly encounter'. This is after getting those feelings of emptiness and loneliness following a period of 'missing' one another. Physical presence is an important aspect of any relationship and especially so for a couple ready and willing to get intimate. Ironically, most people get intimate due to lust and fortunately or unfortunately (there are instances when people have regrets following 'accidental intimate encounters'!) found themselves 'stumbling into love'! This is the moment when one gets the taste of LOVE AT FIRST BITE !! What starts out as fulfillment of sexual curiosity may end up trapping one into an abyss of emotional confusion where one is rendered a slave of  lust ! Sexual intercourse should therefore be treated with the caution and respect that it deserves. Only adults and people of sound health, both mental and physical can enjoy the pleasures of  intimacy without guilt, regrets or fear. The important thing to keep in mind is that intimacy should never be an 'accidental occurrence' whereupon circumstances and situations are the only determining factors . People need to be freely willing to engage in the act of love making and fully aware of the consequences that may arise. Total enjoyment will only be achieved between couples who are both mentally and spiritually ready to connect because sex isn't simply a physical act. It's a magical spiritual experience that can easily enable us to achieve the Angelic feeling of a heaven on earth!  Don't let yourself be a victim of love at first bite because it may not be the last bite! Remember once bitten............! Well don't give shyness a chance in your sex life. Free yourself, communicate, and enjoy !!

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Sexploration !

Touch is a very fundamental aspect of love making.(there is a difference between Love making and having SEX!).Does a bull really make love to a cow?!. As human beings we have to learn the Art Of Sensual/Sexual Touch. This Sexploration technique is very important when it comes to sexual gratification. It entails the experience and patience of being able to touch your partner in a lovingly tender and arousing manner. This is the ability of being able to sensually massage each other with warm caresses sometimes even to the point of ejaculation/orgasm without necessarily engaging in penetrative sex! Sexploration is the ultimate Foreplay ! There's that natural psychological preparation needed before the actual sex act. This is the appetizer; sex spice to give the oomph into your normal sex life! Do not be too eager to satisfy your sexual lust, pangs and hunger to the detriment of an intimate, sexual connection. Take time to Sexplore each other and discover your erogenous zones. Different people react and respond differently to different ways of sexual stimulation. Find out what part of your body gives you that sizzling feeling of Sexstasy and how you like being touched, caressed, licked, sucked, rubbed. Don't be limited by your imagination. Be creative and give each other the freedom to sexplore and learn the best way you  can how to get sexual satisfaction every time you have intercourse. The first point of interest is yourself ! Know your sex organs like the back of your oooooooops!! Yes, get to know how your sex organs look/feel like! This may be quite easy for men and such a challenge for women. Whereas a man can easily discern how his bamboo and fleshy marbles  looks/feels like to touch, it is altogether a different game for a woman to really get to the roots of her mound and canal. Appreciating how your sex organs look like is important as a first step towards wading off shyness and the confidence of allowing a partner to 'sexually peruse' you without feeling like a patient on scrutiny before surgery ! Most women do not even know that they have a clitoris, let alone knowing where it is located and yet it is part of their sexual anatomy! Every part of the body should be open to sexploration .Most men make the mistake of 'going for the kill' as soon as their penis is erect. All they want to do is go in there and shoot! Take time to arouse the woman by gently and sexpertly touching her an a way that shows you care about her emotions and the ultimate goal is sexual enjoyment for both of you. Take a keen interest at how she reacts to your touch. Look at her facial expressions. Listen to the sounds, wimps, gurgles, cries of joy that she makes. Some woman will even 'speak in tongues' when properly aroused! For the woman, take your time as well to mold your man by taking control and 'keeping him at bay' until you are really so wet you can no longer wait to let him get in and explode inside of you! Touch him anywhere and everywhere! Caress, suck, lick, kiss and be attentive to how he groans and moans. Most men will make grunts like pigs when touched in the right way ,right places! It takes time, patience, cooperation and the willingness to learn how to make love to make one a good sexplorer!  This is the only way of getting to find out which are the most erogenous parts of your body. When it comes to sex, being conservative is tantamount to barring one from fully enjoying their sexual sexperiences. Free yourself from self inflicted 'sexblocks'(sexological mental blocks) and get to the unimaginable heights of  Sexteria (sexual hysteria) that will always blow your mind away!

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Body Language.

Human Sexual attraction is a phenomenon that is quite baffling! You can never say for sure or explain why a male human will easily be 'sexually tuned' towards a particular female human. They say beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. The more beautiful a female (woman/girl) is, the more 'sexually activated' male she attracts'. Nothing can be further from the truth. The mystery of  human sexual arousal lies not and in fact ,depends not simply in beauty per se ! As opposed to animals who merely rely on their instincts to mate, human beings have no mating season. Any time is sex time! Of course there are various issues and circumstances that may allow or impede the actual act of copulation taking place. A cock 'gets down' with a chicken when the 'sex alarm' goes off in its head or is it 'cock cock'. It doesn't matter how often the alarm goes off or whether the 'chick' is beautiful or not, the mating just has to take place. The reason why the cock is always 'raping' the chicken!? Chicken shit aside, the primary welcome signal to a potential opportunity for a man to have a sexual adventure with a woman lies in Body Language. It may not be easy to decipher the 'horny codes' of a person who is naturally eager, ready and willing to go on a wild 'sexcursion' but the rewards for being adept at reading the mute messages of sexual hunger are quite gratifying . Seduction is part and parcel of the human sexual experience  but without being able to connect psychologically you will always miss out on opportunities to make love simply for lack of knowledge or the inability to read body language! They say opposites attract each other. When a man approaches an woman ,this rule doesn't necessarily apply. Women tend to have a natural defense mechanism that makes them seem to repel men in the first instance of  'confrontation' even in the face of being 'hit' by an attractive(sic) man ! A man trying to seduce a woman would be wrong to assume that being handsome(whatever that really means) is a guarantee to having a 'sexcapade' with any woman, anytime.  First time rejection is a normal occurrence even if the woman is burning hot under her pants! Learn to read the body language well and you should not be surprised to go on a 'Sexploration tour' with a woman you've just met ! Naturally woman have an inbuilt software that makes them good mind readers (almost psychic) when it comes to 'reading the men'. Stop bragging about how good you are at charming your way into lady's hearts or is it 'honey pots' ? Even before you uttered that archaic, overused chat up line, be aware that your intentions were already known and a decision had already been made by the lady as to whether she will let you take a dive into her deep canal or brush you aside like a filthy, smelly fly! Subject to how you initiate your moves. Touch before you can touch! Use your eyes before you use your body. A woman would never let a man touch her if he had not first caressed her lovingly with his eyes ! Charming words and humor alone will lead you to 'sexual starvation'

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Lovely Sexperience

Human beings are 'animals'. Naturally, animals mate with other animals of their kind.The only thing that guide them is their instincts.A lion with all it's 'mightiness' cannot choose to mate with (read 'rape') an antellope! That's a meal! Human beings, not withstanding their 'animalistic instincts', can not and infact ,must not dare to simply mate or have sex for that matter! We are blessed with intelligence, the ability to choose when, how and with whom to have a lovely 'sex adventure'! Most people take the act of sexual intercourse for granted such that penetration and ejaculation for a man ,and 'being penetrated' for a woman is all that it takes to accomplish this lovely sexperince of human copulation! Unfortunately this is very wrong and infact quite unhealthy because this lack of sexpertise of whatever level is the cause of so much breakups and breakdowns in many intimate ralationships. We have to learn how to "make love" as opposed to 'just having sex', which is as animalistic as chicken mating! Making love is certainly an ART that each and every human being should strive to learn and master according to our ability. After all, all said and done we are each endowed differently both physically and psychologically.The act of making love starts form within(mental) and then spreads out to the physical aspects of 'eating the apple'.You can never,will never really enjoy the 'paradise of eden' unless first and foremost you are able to prepare yourself mentally.Talk about 'blunt foreplay'! This is when you can willingly and consciously allow yourself to be caressed and sexually aroused simply by sight and not touch! Set aside your inhibitions and get your mind NAKED!


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The Apple In The Garden

When, in "the Garden of Eden perspective", did the first act of sexual intercourse take place? Was the "eating of the Apple" a parable/riddle ? Could the Serpent have enticed the 'woman' into the 'first act' and in the course herald the beginning of  the human curse ? It may take a non-conservative mind to hold the view that the first human being got his first intimacy lesson from the being born of his rib! The first offspring brought about the first case of murder/manslaughter. Even in this view, sexual intercourse can never be termed to be the cause that brought any curse on human life. Sex was/is a gift that only had/has to be unwrapped in the right place at the appropriate time! It's only natural to feel horny, but unlike hunger sex should not be partaken just to quench the urge. Hunger may lead to starvation and you won't necessarily die for lack of 'sexercise'! But any sane, healthy, ADULT human, needs to be sexually active to compliment, augment, and fulfill the natural Spiritual, Psychological and Physical needs for a holistic productive life! Sex is not a game to take away boredom nor is it an experiment for the immature. It is SACRED! MYSTICAL! POWERFUL!

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In the beginning...

This is my first post as I  join the "blogosphere" to add, share, spread knowledge, advice and in turn learn and expand my worldly wisdom/intellect on the one sensitive issue that brought us into this world in the first place. This isn't simply about 'sexual intercourse' per se. It's a much deeper and broader perspective at the psychological understanding/misconceptions in human sexual intimacy. The myths, fallacies, phobias, facts, counsel ,therapy....e.t.c.. SEX is the gift of nature that can never be wished away or ignored ! It is my hope and wish that we will be engaging in this fascinating, mystical subject in an objective, topical, entertaining and educative manner. Stay Blogged !